When someone dies people give you cards and they send you flowers. It might not seem like a big deal, you might not even know what’s the ‘right’ thing to do – but it’s really worth doing something -and I can tell you it’s greatly appreciated. It’s these types of gestures that makes you feel less alone.
I was staying at my friend’s house after my husband died. Friends sent me lots of lilies, my friend’s kitchen looked like a forest full of white flowers. If you have a friend, employee or even a casual acquaintance who loses someone send them a sympathy card or note of condolence. It’s often hard to know what to say, what to write but a few kind words and any memories of the lost loved one can mean so much.
My friends gave me cards and little gifts. It wasn’t something that I expected – as grief was all new to me and I couldn’t open them at the time. I wanted to open the cards but everything was just too real so I put them all in a box. Sometimes I’d look at the box and it would make me cry. It took me over 22 months to open all of the cards. I don’t know why its taken me so long, it just has. Grief has it’s own scheduel. I opened the box and now I’ve read every card. My friends gave me beautiful cards full of love and kind sentiments. They gave me candles, note books, little frames. One of them gave me a tiny heart necklace and it’s something I wear a little extra strength.
To my friends – Thank you x